Life isn't about finding yourself, it's about creating yourself.

December 31st. Otherwise known as New Year's Eve. And I could not be more ready to start a new year.

A lot of people say they go to college to find themselves, which I believe to be very true. But unfortunately the real world can alter these "selves" that we so want to be. This is not a bad thing; it just forces us to adapt to our surroundings and become the best "whatever" we can be in the given circumstances.

But there are times when we lose sense of our true self because we are trying to thrive in a place that may not be able to foster what we want to do or be. Again, this is not a bad thing because it makes our creative brain figure out how we can both do what we need to do and what we want to do.

                  

10 Rules I plan to live by from this day forward (I will not say New Year's resolutions because these are for a  lifetime and the term "resolution" is associated with failure in my opinion):

1. I will stop letting others determine my level of happiness.

2. Always remember that family will be there for eternity.

3. Dance every day. Even if it means flailing around like a crazy person.

4. I will eat food that makes me feel good and IS good for my body. And use it as a way to connect to other people.

5. Read. Read about what's going on in the world, not which Kardashian just bought some weird new-breed dog that's called a labra-snoodle-shihtz-on-a-boxerweiler.

6. Choreograph. Apply to festivals. Remind myself that I create relevant stuff.

7. Do not judge new people on what others have done to me. Yes, people will disappoint me continuously (cough, cough..men..cough). But in order to love and make new friends, I must be willing to let the past be in the past and to be open to those who want to be open with me. Getting hurt is part of the process, but then it becomes the past and you move on.

8. Keep in contact with people I went to school with. Even if it's just a hi, how are you.

9. ALWAYS look fierce. make people want to get to know me.

10. Never put all of your eggs in one basket. This goes for job applications, men, etc., until they or it can prove to ME that it's worth my time to invest everything I have in what or who I'm dealing with.


10 things I will constantly remind myself:

1. I am beautiful.
2. I am important.
3. So are other people.
4. I am lucky for my talents.
5. I am intelligent.
6. So are other people.
7. I have great friends and a wonderful family.
8. I am strong.
9. And so are other people.
10. But most importantly, I must love myself first if I am to truly and unconditionally love others.


Happy New Year :]

Time is only governed by the clocks we choose to follow

I understand. Graduating is not what we thought it would be. Or at least not all we thought it would be. Graduate, find a decent first job, look for a place to live, or someone to live with...and work our way up from there. Well graduate: check. Find a decent first job: well, check, if you counts jobs 2, 3, and 4. Look for a place to live or someone to live with. HA. I know some people were able to, but if you're like me and can't afford to pay rent AND your out-of-control student loans, it's not happening right now.

So with all of this, how do we remember to do what we love most? There's never time to dance when you need to be working from 8:30-4 at the mall and then 5-10 at a restaurant. That's the common excuse. The excuse I use all of the time. I'm tired. But really, we're all just procrastinating which in turn will force us to lose everything our body knows.

You can dance anywhere. anytime. Living room 11:00pm. Kitchen 10:30am. Sunglass hut with people staring: 9:30am-3:30pm.

You're not in school. Put on music that you like and just move...3 minutes is all it takes to feel alive again..and your body will thank you. Trust me, it will.

There is a difference between what we want and what is right. However in this case, wanting to dance will always be right because it does only good for us. It refreshes the soul, wakes us up, keeps the body in check, and allows us to express any and all emotions. So if anything, before you head to bed at night, get up and stretch or move those limbs. You'll wake up happier :]